Self Care and Wellbeing

Practising self care does not mean being selfish. However, it may feel that way at first because in our society, particularly for women and mothers, we are expected to give our all to our children, our families, friends and work colleagues.  We give, give, give. And we become exhausted, frustrated, resentful or depressed.

No-one wants to be seen as being selfish, so we continue giving and putting our needs further down on the list of priorities.

Consequently, activities we enjoy and need for our emotional and mental wellbeing can fall by the wayside. This is all completely understandable, as we do tend to have many commitments and demands and only a limited amount of time each day.

It doesn't have to be an either/or situation
Your children, partner, friends and co-workers will benefit enormously when you practice good self care.

Think of your self care as a GIFT to others.
WHY?
​Because you will be:
-  happier and calmer
-  more energised
-  in a better frame of mind
-  less resentful
-  less anxious and
-  better able to handle stress.

What is Self Care?

Is self care getting a massage, or a facial, or drinking a glass of wine when the kids have gone to bed? Is self care Me Time?
Maybe, Sort of, Partly Yes...

But there's a lot more to it.
When you make time for yourself, you give yourself the time and space to:
-  reconnect with your own heart
-  reconnect with your sense of who you are
-  experience more inner peace
-  experience more presence
-  feel good
-  and as a result, you will express more of your authentic self.
How do you find the time for yourself?
Be willing to give yourself 2-10 minutes each day and start with something small.
Pick something meaningful to you. If you have an artistic nature, set up a space on your dining table that you can go to for a few moments and be creative. Pick something that is soul nourishing for you.

Free Download list of 265 Ideas and Activities to help lift your spirit and start to create space in your life for things that make you feel good, joyful, calm, peaceful and confident.


​What are the components of Good Self Care?

This will vary for each person. 

If you're at the point where you want to feel better and have time for yourself, then building on your skills and practising self care will help you make these positive changes.

For example, if you find it difficult to say no to the demands of others, you can learn specific interpersonal skills of how to more effectively set boundaries and maintain them, how to better communicate assertively, be given the language to use in certain situations, how to buy time when you need it so you can decide if you actually want to commit to a request, how to let people down and maintain good relationships, how to manage guilt and anxiety, how to get what you want and have your own needs met, how to have more self understanding and compassion, release blame, release self judgement, how to better regulate your emotions and be more present in your life.

Self Care includes taking care of your mind, body, emotions and soul. As well as looking at your current situation and what you'd like to change, it may involve going within and gaining access to the wisdom of your own being. Often this will show itself through your body symptoms, illnesses, chronic conditions and dreams.

Embarking on this process can help raise your self-awareness and live a more joyful and authentic life.​
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